Are you responsible for managing a staff? Are you often looking for ways to more effectively manage them, to become a “better” manager? If so there are shelves and shelves of books to help you with that, right?
But here’s the thing: we are all managers, no matter what our position, and we all are responsible for managing multiple things.
So maybe I manage a staff. But definitely I manage my relationship with my boss. I manage my relationship with my co-workers. I manage the tasks on my to-do list. I manage my relationships with my friends and family. I manage my community involvement. I manage schedules. I manage my time. I manage my weekly menu. I manage my on-line presence. I manage the unexpected health issue/traffic jam/sick child/lost report/board meeting/car problem.
So whether we are “managers” or not, we are all managing up, down, and sideways every single day.
Where’s the book on that?
Over the past few years I’ve started to pay greater attention to how people go about managing the up, down, and sideways of their lives, and I’ve come to believe there are a few simple tips for doing it well, for keeping centered amidst the chaos of our lives.
So let’s put some of these into practice.
You have a new co-worker that seems to be the complete opposite of you, and the two of you rarely see eye to eye. Frustration is mounting. Instead of focusing on how different you are, ask them for coffee and talk about everything BUT work… see what you’ve got in common, and you just might start to see each other in a different light.
Your team keeps letting you down, and your list of things they are not doing for you is growing by the day. You find yourself working late, muttering about how you have to do it all, and your resentment builds. First, try breathing. (When in doubt, always try breathing). Then, take a look at yourself. What have you been doing or not doing that could be contributing to the team’s behavior? Can you have a genuine conversation with them, asking them what they need from you?
Your boss wants you to handle all the administrative aspects of a big company presentation coming up, but you believe you should actually be giving the presentation. Instead of half-heartedly handling the admin duties, embrace them so that whoever is giving the presentation shines bright. Meanwhile, find a time to talk to your boss to let him or her know how great the presenter did, and that you’d also like the chance to represent the company at a future event.. and ask them what you might need to do in order for them to consider that. (And also, don’t forget #8).
You’ve got two parties to plan, a work trip looming, a massive project deadline approaching, three school events, and a sick child. Your heart races at the mere thought of all that needs to get done and you feel completely overwhelmed with how you’ll possible manage it all. Stop thinking about all of it. Make a list of the things you need to do, and just think about the first one. Then the second one. You’ll get there.
What would you add to the list?